To Be More Attractive? Zap The Tolerations!

Imagine there is an event that will take place in a town many miles from where you live.

Your car needs an oil change. But, your life schedule has been very full, allowing you little time to do anything about.

You decide that, to make your trip, you are willing to put up with the engine knocking-even, possibly, having the engine receive damage- because you are so focused on attending the event.

Sometimes, we are just like that. We have so many great goals and Dreams! We get so focused that we allow ourselves to run around with unmet needs, disturbances and tolerations.

Tolerations slow us down in our personal growth. They create 'frictions' in our relationships. They make us unable to enjoy the journey of reaching our goals. In plain simple English, tolerations can give us stress, cause conflicts in our most important relationships and, potentially, may create the feeling of exhaustion, discouragement, lack of confidence, pain and hurt.

You've got better things to do than to tolerate!

Zapping tolerations is a necessary habit to have if we wish to improve our quality of life. As we grow, we should progressively raise our standards to the creation of a toleration-free zone for our lives.

If you are a heavy coffee drinker, you rely on coffee to keep you awake and get you through the day with energy. If you suddenly stop drinking coffee, you may suffer in the short term. However, the withdrawal 'pain' may push you to look into the reasons why you lack energy and motivation at work. You may discover that the reasons are emotional, spiritual or physical. Then, depending upon your discovery, you can properly meet your needs by nourishing your areas of lack.

HELPFUL EXERCISES

1. Knowing what you are tolerating is the first step in the process of zapping your tolerations. Writing out all your tolerations can help you tremendously. Don't worry about how you will resolve the matters. Write them out, become conscious of them and put them in your prayers. You will see that solutions will come.

2. Look for 'pivotal tolerations.' These are tolerations that, once you find solutions for a single pivotal toleration, multiple tolerations get resolved. For example, the lack of physical exercise or eating frozen dinners/TV dinners 4 times a week may be big pivotal toleration. It could be pivotal for the resulting situations of obesity, lack of energy, restless sleep or insomnia, lack-luster hair, chronic pain, poor self-image, or other related symptoms. By exercising and eating well, you can help eliminate many or all of the other tolerations.

3. Healthy trees have healthy roots. Don't just handle the tolerations on the surface. Get to know the roots. Are you working on a job you dislike? Find out the roots of why you feel as you do. Are you not enjoying what you do because it doesn't allow you to bring into play your talents? Or, do you love what you do but you hate the politics you have to play?

Benefits of being Toleration-Free

1. You stop wasting your life trying to manage situations that shouldn't be there in the first place.

2. You become more aware of your choices and become better at making choices right for your life.

3. You have more energy to devote to your quality of life, working on the things that are truly important to you.

4. Your living is a model for family and friends.

Helen Chen is a Business and Life Coach. She specializes in partnering with remarkable individuals in business to get out of their own way and take themselves to the next fascinating new level of effectiveness and profitability. To receive her FREE ezine with proven tips and exercises to take yourself and your business to a SUREFIRE new level of success, go to http://www.HYCCoaching.com.

---

Mirror, Mirror

The Concept of Beauty"Mirror Mirror on the Wall, who's the most beautiful of them all?"This is a line spoken by the Queen in the children's fairy tale "Snow White"The Queen most likely, was... Read More

100 Ways to Keep Your Lover ? Happy ? At Home!

Here are over 100 ideas to help you keep monogamy hot!1. Find out what music your lover likes, and play it.2. Sing to each other, especially if you can't sing. Listen to a... Read More

How To Make A Strong First Impression: Seven Tips That Really Work

We have all heard this warning: You never get a second chance to make a good first impression. Also, human behavior specialists caution that we only have from seven to seventeen seconds of... Read More

Enjoy the Magic of Prosperity

There is an art and a science to prosperity. The art is playing with the magic of prosperity. The science is aligning with the physics of prosperity.Play at Life!Why does the money run... Read More

How To Use Affirmations To Create Prosperity?

Dear Internet friend. Each human being is an incredible piece of sowtware. Each one of us has been "programmed" in a certain way. This program runs our lives 24 hours a day, and... Read More

My Eight Success Secrets

These eight success secrets apply to anything you do in life, not just to doing business offline or online.First: LOVE is the foundation of everything--love for whatever you do and for others. "To... Read More

Social Skills Training Can Positively Impact Your Life

Millions of people become anxious and insecure when speaking in public, starting a conversation, or mingling with others in a social setting.There are a large number of individuals who are extremely successful in... Read More

What Keeps You From Your Destiny

Heading back to the car after lunch, a good-looking guy with a swagger caught my attention.Or rather his t-shirt did!Emblazoned across his back were the words, 'I create the havoc that keeps me... Read More

Do You Have Tickets To Your Dream Theater?

I'd like you to do an exercise with me.I want you to use your imagination to construct a dream theater.Begin by visiting your living room in your mind's eye.Now this is not the... Read More

The Mind - What An Amazing Universe

You are what you think;The experts say we barely use 10% of our minds. I wouldn't be so sure about that or very proud of it either. What an unexplored area of the... Read More

What Did You Want To Be When You Grew Up

When I was seven years old I wanted to be an author. Not a writer, but an author. As in, "guy who writes books." Why I chose that career, I'm not sure. Maybe... Read More

Do You Have an Exit Plan?

Recently, I came across something strikingly shocking, fascinating, obscure, and yet, completely obvious.Few of us have an "Exit Plan."An Exit Plan is a comprehensive, compelling, strategy for leaving feeling fantastic.When you aren't experiencing... Read More

Establishing Your Charisma Presence

An integral piece of charisma is establishing a presence, so let's examine 3 ways to establish your charisma presence, that will clearly tell all around you "I'm a player and a force to... Read More

The World According To Max The Cat

Max jumped on my chest as soon as the first rays of sunlight streamed through the blinds."Are you awake?" he asked, licking his paw with infinite fastidiousness."I am now," I said. "Hey, did... Read More

4 Simple Steps To The Good Life

If you want to create the good life -- a life filled with more achievement, prosperity and happiness than you could now imagine -- all you really need to do is faithfully follow... Read More

The Principle of Abundance

One of the first great things I learned when starting my business, is that there are two ways of thinking. You can believe that there is more than enough business to go around... Read More

Ego, Arrogance, and Self-Esteem

The pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain are not our only motivators. Whether you realize it or not, our underlying purpose in life is to define and pursue our true purpose... Read More

Security Is An Inside Job

While I was growing up, my dad repeatedly told me that when I completing my schooling, I needed to get a good job. In fact, I should try to land some sort of... Read More

Dont Let Other Peoples Walls Fence You In

"How's it going?" I asked the clerk in the new bookstore. "Well you know," she replied "it takes a long time to build a business." I caught myself just before I muttered in... Read More

How We Evolved Into An Un-Charming Culture...(And What To Do About It)

Charm did not play a very large role in that arrangement. But times have changed (thank goodness) since the days of those primitive humans, and these days, charm can play a tremendous role... Read More

The Manifestations Of Self

A man is captive within himself. He dwells in a freedom which is confirmed to bounds, he breathes in an ambience ensnared to limits, he nurtures a shriveled valiance with the quaint promises... Read More

October: A Month of Personal Harvest

October is hands down my favorite month. Every year l look forward to a visit to Lynd's Fruit Farm in Pataskala, Ohio. My husband and I get in the car on a crisp... Read More

Plug in with a Pupose!

Imagine that each person on this planet carried with them a teaspoon of soil or rock from Mt. Everest. Certainly Mt. Everest would shrink! Those individual teaspoons of material from the tallest mountain... Read More

Your Default Settings

Buy a computer--any computer--and it comes loaded with software automatically set to certain default settings. For example, the default setting for Word is Times New Roman 12-point. Last week, as I presented one... Read More

True Friends Are Not Dream-Slashers

A friendship poem:Choose friends wisely, the portrait they paintIs who you are and who you ain't.Friendship is life's great supportWhen friends are of the right sort.For all your dreams do they make room,Or... Read More

How To Invite Positive Change In Your Life

Gnothi seauton,, said Socrates. "Know thyself."These words remain as true today as in the days when the portly philosopher in his rumpled tunic sauntered through the dusty agora of ancient Athens and pondered... Read More

Is Effortless Prosperity Really Possible?

Dear friends,Whenever I read the words "effortless prosperity" a chain reaction of thoughts immediately starts in my mind. I ask myself these questions.How is that possible? Does effortless prosperity mean free money? Will... Read More

What Will It Cost You?

What will it cost you if you don't do it?Everyone has a secret dream that they nourish in their hearts.Yet many of these dreams never emerge beyond mere wishful thinking.I'd like to challenge... Read More

The Law of Attraction and Love

The Law of Attraction says that 'like attracts like'. It means that whatever your predominate thoughts are will show up as people and experiences in your life. I used to get really angry... Read More